“He Was My Everything”…

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This morning has started with two very sad news. Two women I know have lost their husbands – absolutely unexpectedly. One is young and has 3 little kids. The other one is in her late 50’s and it was just two of them for many years. I wasn’t too close with any of them, but close enough to imagine how their lives will be affected.

When things like this happen, it always strikes me how we mostly never think how good we have it until we don’t. How most of the things don’t even matter in a big picture as long as you can hold the hand of the one you love. How fights and disagreements are a waste of time you can otherwise spend enjoying your loved one being around.

I know it sounds terribly cliche, but just for a second pause and think how blessed you are to have this person in your life. Go hug them. Tell that you love them. Tell them how much they mean to you.

I will.

Friends And The City

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Over the past few days I have been contemplating a lot on the friendship. Not sure what prompted it. Could be my ex-colleague posting the pictures from 10 years ago where we are all young, restless and guys have way much hair than they do now. Could be me watching the Sex and the City movie last week and remembering the time I first watched it with one of my besties in the movie theater almost 8 years ago.  Could be someone who used to be a close friend being for couple weeks just few hours drive from me and us not arranging to meet because we somehow grew apart over the last years. Could be me being strangely heart-warmed to see a text from a person who I once swore I won’t ever speak again to. Most likely it was all of these things together plus few other things.

Friendship is not easy when you are an adult. It becomes more challenging to make new friends. It becomes way harder to deal with breakups with those who once knew you better than anyone else. It’s not always easy to be happy for your bff when she is getting a job promotion or meets Mr. Right when you are unemployed and single. It can be hard to find words to console your heartbroken friend when she is dealing with divorce, postpartum, parents issues or job loss. It gets harder to get together because life gets busier and busier and the schedules do not coincide; and when they do – you do not necessarily have the energy to hang out or to even pick up the phone.

In a perfect world Charlotte York attends New York Fashion Week with her girlfriends and goes on an impromptu trip to Mexico to help Carrie mend her broken heart. Continue reading